confession's is moving!

We are helping with a church plant in Kentucky, and we need some support!

God has put in on Justin’s heart for many years to plant a church. He recently had the opportunity to attend a conference full of church planters and organizations that help people do so. It rocked his world and he was ready to do it in an instant. The biggest hurdle he had to conquer was God changing Heather’s heart and making her open to the idea, which she was not in any way! Then came our visit to Louisville and our meetings with friends of a long time who were planting a church there. It felt like home, we loved their vision for church, and their passion for winning lost people to GOD! In that moment we knew that this is where God meant for us to be. Heather was even excited about the idea, which truly showed us that God was working in our lives and this is where what he wanted for us.

As the church we are moving to start is only in the forming stages and probably will not be able to pay us for a while we had also been applying for jobs and sending out resume’s and praying for everything to fall in place in God’s timing. We KNOW that God had huge plans for us, as he says in Jer 29:11, For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” We KNOW that this is what God has in store for us, so he will provide a way for us to get there and the money to survive until we get jobs! We have started an online donation fund to help, just like with missionaries we are going to need the love, support, and prayers of our family and friends to get us through this little challenge in our lives. If you can help support our call financially thank you so much, if you cant we totally understand and just ask for prayers and some extra love as we go through this! Thank you so much for everything that you do, the love you pour on us, and the prayers we know you constantly cover us with. We would not be the people we are today without people like you in our lives.

If you can help financially in any way please visit http://www.plumfund.com/pf/thecarners. All of the money we receive will be going to our relocating costs, with anything that is left over going directly to our new church home HopeCulture.tv. I encourage you to check out the church website, watch the videos, sign up for the email list. Its such an exciting yet scary time for the Carners!

What a Man, What a Mighty Good Man!

The other day a man and his wife came into the salon. As I greeted them and asked how we could help them I was bluntly interrupted by the wife saying that "he" needed a haircut. Before I could even speak she ordered him to sit down and she pulled me over to the haircut chart and showed me how "he" wanted his haircut. Her husband then spun around in the chair and was objecting with how she wanted his haircut. I go back to the chair and although he couldn't fully express how he wanted his hair cut he did know he did not want it as short as the picture and wanted it cut with just scissors, not clippers. She kept interrupting him and barking orders at him... and it made me think...

Why do women do these things to their husbands?  Why can't you let your man be a MAN?

Now before you all go on and think into this at all I am NOT saying that your man should yell, hit, scream, bark orders, control, or anything else like that. That is NOT a man.

It makes me incredibly sad to see a man controlled or beat down to the point where he is no longer a man. When they hold their head low, let their wife bark orders, tell them what to do and how to do it. That is not the way a man should act, or the way a man should be treated. In fact its not the way a woman should be treated either... but that's not what this blog is about.

Man was created to be the head of the household. To be the spiritual leader, to make smart decisions for the family, and to be a MAN! He should be strong, confident, and able to make his own choices on how he would like his hair cut!

Now, don't get me wrong. Being married for three years I have learned a tiny little bit about being the neck of the relationship! What does that mean? Although my husband is the head, I am the neck. I support and move the head in directions that I want... just not in a bossy overpowering way. I kindly make suggestions or plant ideas until what I want is accomplished. He will eventually think it was his idea to do whatever it is that I have been nagging about, thus I will get my way! But I will never de-masculine-ise my husband. He is a MAN. I didn't marry a woman, so I would never want him to act like one.

Being a hairstylist I may complain about how he wants his hair cut. He likes it short, I like it longer. I try to do a 3 instead of a 2, I try to get him to do something to it... but alas I never win and my husband sports a short fade.

I guess its better than him having pig tails and wearing the skirt in the relationship...